25 August 2010

F for Freedom

Freedom is defined as the condition of being free of restraints, Liberty of the person from slavery, detention, or oppression.
As an Indian woman I have seen and heard of many cases where women do not have the freedom to choose their career, life partner and anything what so ever. They are controlled by their fathers before marriage and then the husband tells them what to do or not to do after marriage.
When I was young I always wanted to be a nurse. My father was against the idea of me making a career out of nursing. But I was adamant and got my way by agreeing to do my graduation in Arts before I joined the nursing course. I completed my nursing and really enjoyed myself. I made so many new friends and am in touch with two of them even though they are in New Zealand. My father was also particular that we siblings married a Goan Brahmin and he was lucky that all of us managed to find suitable spouses even though three of us had arranged marriages. For me it was not so bad as far as freedom was concerned.
After I got engaged to Ezy he told me that he wanted me to leave my job as he wanted me to sail with him after we got married. So I left my job just before I got married.
After that when little Magali came into our lives I had all the time in the world to look after her and I enjoyed myself. I am lucky that I married Ezy because he has given me  lot of FREEDOM. I do not work but I have enough of money to spend lavishly. I spend about 5 hours each day /three times a week at the Home for the aged. I help out many people in many ways I can and i am happy that I have a family that allows me to do what I want.
Thank you Ezy for giving me my freedom and I love my life the way it is.

Love you both.

This post is part of ABC Wednesday.


  1. Thank you for your words of wisdom, Sheila. You made me realize Canadian women often take our freedom for granted, when we should be grateful for it instead. It sounds as if you were very fortunate in having a kind husband, and together you have a beautiful daughter. The flowers in your photograph are exquisite.
    Sincerely, Kay

  2. You were very courageous to stand up to your father for the life you wanted to live. The wonderful thing is you will always have that career if you so choose to return to working full-time outside the home. For now, Magali is blessed to have you at home, showing her how to be a strong woman.

  3. It sounds like for you, Freedom and Family are beautifully intertwined! Thank you for sharing your story.

  4. A visit to the famous mom blogger was long due! Glad I did make it. I am sure Ezy would be happy to have you around as well! Wish you both many more years of happy married life! Of course the kebab mein haddi Magali will only add more spice in your lives!

    Best regards!

  5. Grrr @ Kabab mein haddi.
    Tried to think of a very fierce faced text emoticon but couldn't come up with any. fml.

  6. We always take our freedom for granted until we hear stories of people who cannot really do anything that hey want. I am really lucky.
    Thanks for your comment.

  7. Sorry for the late reply Sylvia. Hope you are enjoying a lovely week too.

  8. I am really hot headed and used to argue a lot with my father so he had no choice but to give in after I had done my college years.Magali knows she is lucky because she gets to choose what she wants to do in life.Thank you for your comment Lisa.

  9. Because I have a great family I can do what I want though they may grumble sometimes. Thank you for your comment Christine.

  10. Thank you for your visit and comment Vineet. You really got the Kebab mein Haddi right because she is just that right from the time she was born.Ezy is always happy to have me around and is just angry that I fuss too much over Magali. So i have to share my time between the both of them.

  11. Thank you for your regular comments Roger.

  12. I am new here! Would love for you to come visit me too :)

    Have a great day!